Sour is the New Sweet

“The One”

Ahhh, love. One of my favorite topics of all time. I love exploring its complexities (as how human beings make it so complicated and melodramatic)!

But before I preach, I would like to ask if any of you remember Mark Macapagal’s, “The One that got Away” ? The article was a phenomenon, it was forwarded from e-mail to e-mail tugging the hearts of hopeless romantics. Somewhere, somehow you are hoping that the one is looking for you.

Which now brings me to this; someone asked me in formspring: (although I answered this question through formspring, I’d like to expound my answer here.)

How can you tell if you’ve found the one for you?

Dear Anonymous,

Whoever you are, I feel that your heart longs for “the one”. I used to ask this question myself, I used to pine and hope against hope that in this lifetime, I can be with the one. But how did I find out that he is the one? Simple.

You know it in your very core. It may sound silly at first but it is this feeling that this significant other understands you already even if you haven’t said a word. It is as if he can read your mind. He can read you and you know him so well too. Perhaps he’s like your long lost half? All this aching and longing is finally gone—-!

But…this doesn’t mean you’re nothing without this person. We all know it’s sweet and cheesy to say, “I am nothing without you.”

photo by George Goodnight

Dear, you were someone even before you met him. Yes. You know it in your very core that he IS the one, but it doesn’t mean your life and happiness solely depends on him.

What is the significance of this all, you ask. If I am whole, why do I need to see or meet the one?

When one loves the self, it radiates through him and to him. He has so much love to give that finding the one means life just keeps getting better.

Can I always be with him?

It is a matter of choice. As human beings we are given the freewill to decide on things, to choose what we feel and think is right at the moment.

After all, life is all about making choices.

But why is everything complicated?

Complicated? Perhaps it’s the timing. Perhaps one has to learn a lot of things first before he can finally be with “the one”. Perhaps she has to iron out her personal issues too? Ahhh, how many times should I hear “It’s Complicated” in every relationships I encounter.

Is there hope?

Yes. There always will be. Don’t go against the flow. Let it be.

Oh my! I talk too much. Good night now my dear readers.

xoxo,

Madame Au